Does "The One" Exist?

You don't find  the one.

You let love land.

It's not really about who the person is.

It's about how your body
receives the connection.

With the same person,
love can feel completely different
depending on what the body is doing. 

Whether it can rest.
Whether it can receive.
Whether it can stay present.
And evolve inside intimacy.

So what does that actually look like?

1.

Being you.

Being unapologetically you
is not loud.

It's not shouting
"This is who I am,
take it or leave it."

It's not performing
authenticity.

It's quiet.
Grounded.

"I don't need to prove anything."
"I don't need to explain."
"I don't need to persuade."
"I don't need to manage how I'm received."

I just be.

After my partner and I first met,
I later saw a note he had written about that day.

It said:
"She was unapologetically being her."

We met at a light festival in Thailand,
by a lake, under a full moon.

At some point, I wanted to sit quietly
and feel the energy.

So I said,
"Can I meditate for a bit?"

I put on my favorite music.
We shared one earphone.
Sat by the lake.

The energy moved through me deeply,
and I started crying.

On a first meeting.
By a lake.
Under a full moon.

It could have looked strange.

But I wasn't trying to show who I was.
And I wasn't hiding it either.

I wasn't explaining.
Or justifying.

I was simply there.

2.

Following the heart.
Not playing the game.

At that time, I was traveling
and had a lot of resistance to dating.

Past versions of me
would have shut down early.
To stay in control.

This time,
I stayed present.

At one point I asked,
"Who is he?
What am I doing here?"

The answer didn't tell me
whether he was the one.

It was simple.
Clear.

"Be present."

So I was.

Not trying to know how it would end.
Not trying to protect myself in advance.

Just here.

And one day,
"I love you" came out of my mouth.

By text.
Right before my flight took off.

I didn't fully understand what I felt yet.
I didn't know where it would lead.

But it wanted to be said.

Past me would have swallowed it.
Calculated.
Waited.

This time,
I didn't.

I followed the heart.
I let it out.
I stayed.

3.

Surrendering to the present.

You don't get confirmation in advance.

You don't know if someone is "the one"
before intimacy is allowed to unfold.

You surrender to the present.

Moment by moment.
Listening to the body.

So how do you know?

It's a calm yes.

Not hype.
Not dopamine.
Not obsession.

A grounded, steady yes.

"Yes, I can be here."
"Yes, I want to grow with this person."
"Yes, I feel safe."
"Yes, I feel at home."

No urgency.
No gripping.

The body tells you.

Just like it tells you a clean no.

Not a loud no.
Not a defensive no.

Just... no.

Calm.
Clear.

The body always speaks quietly first.